Memories Revisited.

On Friday, October 9, 2009 at 16:42 (GMT) the world lost one of its brightest lights. Ruby was a beautiful and brilliant girl who could brighten up anyone’s day by merely typing a few words. She was an inspiration, a teacher, showcasing the importance of living each day to the fullest as well as the necessity of laughing and smiling at least once a day. She touched people all around the world, just by blogging from her bedroom or hospital room. All the while she was fighting against leukemia, she never gave up, she never questioned “Why me?” She was always strong, even when she was tired and upset.

“There’s a difference between giving up and letting go.”

At least now, we know she is at peace. There isn’t any more pain, no more needles, and all the banana milkshakes that she could possibly want. I regret never getting to know her as well as a few others did, but just by reading her blog entries and tweets on Twitter, she taught me so much about living. I finally completely realized that I can’t sweat the small stuff; I can’t let the little obstacles that stood in my way get me down. She taught me how to take life in stride, one day at a time. I’ll never forget her, Ruby, the girl who was able to inspire me in ways no one else has ever done.

“I don’t believe life has been unkind to me ... I can still drink banana milkshake can’t I?”

I’ll never forget her jokes or her infectious smile – even if I never saw her in smile in person, I could feel it resonating through my computer screen, half-way across the world. Some of my friends can’t quite comprehend why I’ve been so affected by the passing of a girl I barely knew; a girl who wrote blogs and tweets, a girl I never even met. I tell them, it doesn’t matter if you’ve never met someone; it’s how they make you feel. Ruby made me laugh, she caused me to smile, and she taught me to appreciate the little things. I fear I may have taken Ruby’s vibrancy for granted. I always thought, “I can e-mail her tomorrow. I can tell her this joke later.” Before I knew it, she was already gone.

There’s that saying: “You never know what you’ve got until it’s gone.” I’ve never quite understood that saying until now. I wish so much to have known Ruby in person; to witness the light she possessed, first hand; to have heard her speak one of her quirky little one-liners or jokes, rather than just read them online; to have listened to her beautiful gift of song.

“E-I-E-I-O is a horrible misspelling of the word FARM.”

My heart goes out to her Mum, twin brother, Rio, and all of her close friends. They were the ones who knew her best and were able to see and experience everything Ruby had to offer. They were the ones who helped her through her toughest times and enabled her to achieve so many things. I want to thank them for being her support. Thank her Mum for being everything a mother should be and more. Thank Rio for being her best friend. Thank Chloe for being there every step of the way. Thank everyone just for being the amazing people that Ruby adored.

She was an angel here on earth and she now continues to be one with her passing, watching over all of her loved ones with her beloved Dog. Rest in Peace dearest Ruby, you will be missed.

“I love people ... I just wish they would do the same.”

I love you Ruby, as many, many others did as well. You brought us together, you opened our hearts a bit more, and because of that, we are able to share our grief, share our thoughts, and share our love for you. Thank you, Ruby.

If you were just wandering and stumbled across my blog and have not yet heard about Ruby, I hope that even in death, she may still inspire you. Death ends life but not a relationship, forever in our hearts Ruby’s memory lives on.

EAT SH*T LEUKEMIA!!!!

(Originally posted at sinfulx on October 11, 2009)

No Need to Rush.

Sorry, sorry, sorry for not updating for another month again! I've been terrible at keeping up with this blog lately. (I blame the fact that school started and I'm already insanely busy with all my schoolwork.) I hope all my lovelies that actually read this are doing well and that we can all catch up sometime soon.

Anyway, just wanted to share a new music find of mine. It's a cover of one of my song obsessions of the moment, Katy Perry's "Teenage Dream" however the lyrics have been changed to suit the male singer and it's SO much more romantic. I'm so in love with this version of the song ...

"Let's just talk all through the night. There's no need to rush. I will get your heart racing if that's what you need in this teenage dream tonight. Let you rest your head on me if that's what you need in this teenage dream tonight."

I hope you enjoy!



(I promise I'll have a proper update as soon as I can!)

Girl, You're Amazing.

This song has been playing on repeat for the past few days. It's just one of those 'feel good' songs about how there's always at least one person who thinks you're beautiful. So I wanted to share it with all my amazing and beautiful girls who read this blog:

Oh her eyes, her eyes make the stars look like they're not shining;
Her hair, her hair falls perfectly without her trying;
She's so beautiful and I tell her everyday.

Yeah I know, I know when I compliment her she won't believe me
And it's so, it's so sad to think she don't see what I see
But every time she asks me "Do I look okay?" I say:

When I see your face, there's not a thing that I would change
Because you're amazing just the way you are.
And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while
Because girl, you're amazing just the way you are.

If perfect is what you're searching for, then just stay the same.
<3

Photographs and Memories.

Related to my last post ... (more music recommendations for my dear Maju!) I absolutely adore Jason Reeves. I've loved his music from the time I first heard him singing "Droplets" with Colbie Caillat a few years ago.

This is a good song for when you're missing someone or something and just want to look back at your life before you knew this person. You realize they've changed you in a way that is so profound that you can't imagine yourself not being this way. This song captures the idea that I sort of talked about in my last post: there are reasons for everything that happens in your life. Also, the future holds better memories for you, provided that you keep looking forward and maintain everything that is good in your life.

I hope you enjoy!

I keep your picture by my bed for when I'm feeling sad
And I don't know why I would be:
The way your smile looks so real,
I feel like I could start to understand your grace.


'Cause I have photographs and memories of the times
When you weren't on my mind and I was alone.
And I have poetry and drawings of my life
When you weren't on my side and I didn't know just what is love.

These Photographic Memories.

Throughout high school I was one of those people that always had their camera on hand to capture those fleeting moments and candid shots. I must have taken at least 1000 photos during those three years. It was about preserving memories, making keepsakes of those precious teen years, creating something by which to remember everything.

The other day I was looking through them and realized so many things. Those were the years of naïveté and blissful ignorance. You did things just because. You made rash decisions. You paid no mind to potential consequence. You had no idea just how much a simple action or word could change everything or affect the future. Now, via these photographs, you look through the moments leading up to a huge event that changed everything and feel completely powerless. Then it hits: you’re powerless to change it now but you had every opportunity and all possible power to change the past before it even happened. The past didn’t have to happen the way it did.

Of course, it’s all fine and easy to regret what you did, or rather, didn’t do back then but everything happens for a reason. There’s a perfect explanation as to why things happened the way they did. This explanation may not be clear-cut or as obvious as you’d want it to be but it’s there: whatever is meant to be will be. Destiny, fate, God’s will … whatever reason you choose to believe in, one thing resounds: nothing is arbitrary.

By extension, life’s winding road will always lead you to where you’re meant to be. No matter what paths you took in the past, no matter which one you’re currently on or will be on: if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be. I realize I sound like a broken record but I firmly believe that. I could have done so many things differently if only I had the same retrospective perception as I do now. [Un]fortunately I didn’t. I was naive, ignorant, and young and jaded. I had no idea of how the world truly functioned; I still have no clue. I didn’t realize just what consequences would come of my words and actions.

I can say that I will be more careful from now on but that’s impossible. It’s human nature to not look that far into the future; to remain in the present and very near future. It’s too easy to look past the fine details – those subtleties – and even the blatant cues. It’s a cycle that doesn’t quite end: I keep taking the photos and years later I look back and realize things I should have noticed at the time. I guess it’s the reason that we never stop growing up, no matter how old we are.

So look back but don’t regret. Sure, you made mistakes and did things you’re not proud of. You might wish you could have done certain things differently but don’t. Life is too precious to keep looking back and living in the past. Look back and learn from those mistakes. Look back, remember all the good times and continue to make more. Look back in fondness but never in regret. Look back and be thankful for the lessons you learned, the people you met, the experiences you had. Look back but keep moving forward.

Oh, these photographic memories …